[her story doesn't really make sense; there's no reason a lady in a tomb should be the reason. it has the feeling more of something that harrow has held onto for a long time. she couldn't accept any of the explanations her parents had used to rationalize the decision; it was too hard. but she could invent her own.]
...That aspect of it doesn't bother me so much. It is only that it embarrasses me, to behave so in public.
[ yeah! unfortunately, that's the part of this that makes the most sense!!! sometimes you just have to deal with the soul crushing trauma of that kind of a birth. it's fine. we support women's wrongs and poor coping
anyway. he nods. ]
I see what you mean. You guys aren't very affectionate, in the Ninth, I'm guessing? The first time I reached out and gave Gideon a hug, she stiffened up like a board.
I don't know. [she sighs.] The Ninth I grew up in, no. Nav was reviled and I was revered, and either way, I suppose one might call it rather cold. I have no way of knowing what the Ninth was like before I was born.
Mm... [ he'd ask about there being a recorded history, but... what with harrow told him before, he's not so sure.
he makes a thoughtful noise. ]
...Well, it's about what you're comfortable with, Harrowhark. More than anything else. If you want to ever find yourself in a situation where you might be more affectionate towards someone, then, you should be able to do that of your own choice, not because of a drink that makes you act strangely - and to do so in private and not in public, too.
Not that you need me to tell you that. [ a little more teasingly. ] But sometimes it's nice to actualize things, too.
[it's not really a question of recorded history its more that the incredible coldness may just be a result of trauma because everyone's kids died in a horrific accident.
she blushes at this. stop trying to give her the talk.]
I'm just saying! Okay, okay, I won't push it any further. [ he does muffle a little bit a laugh but it's more at the face she makes than anything else. this is a cute side of harrow... ]
People here are very into that kind of thing, is all. So I'm glad to hear your boundaries are being respected.
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...That aspect of it doesn't bother me so much. It is only that it embarrasses me, to behave so in public.
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anyway. he nods. ]
I see what you mean. You guys aren't very affectionate, in the Ninth, I'm guessing? The first time I reached out and gave Gideon a hug, she stiffened up like a board.
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he makes a thoughtful noise. ]
...Well, it's about what you're comfortable with, Harrowhark. More than anything else. If you want to ever find yourself in a situation where you might be more affectionate towards someone, then, you should be able to do that of your own choice, not because of a drink that makes you act strangely - and to do so in private and not in public, too.
Not that you need me to tell you that. [ a little more teasingly. ] But sometimes it's nice to actualize things, too.
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she blushes at this. stop trying to give her the talk.]
Please do not speak of this to me.
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I'm just saying! Okay, okay, I won't push it any further. [ he does muffle a little bit a laugh but it's more at the face she makes than anything else. this is a cute side of harrow... ]
People here are very into that kind of thing, is all. So I'm glad to hear your boundaries are being respected.
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My boundaries are unassailable. And no one has attempted to assail them.